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Blame, Responsibility, and the Stories We Tell Ourselves
Human beings are natural storytellers. We create stories to make sense of our experiences, our relationships, our successes, and our struggles. The problem isn’t that we tell stories. The problem is that we often mistake our stories for the truth. When something painful happens, we instinctively look for an explanation. Sometimes that explanation becomes…
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Shame vs Accountability: Why Most People Get Stuck
Many people believe shame and accountability are the same thing. They aren’t. In fact, confusing the two is one of the biggest reasons people stay stuck. Shame says: “I am bad.” Accountability says: “I made a choice, and I can make a different one.” Shame attacks identity. Accountability addresses behavior. Shame keeps people trapped…
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Accountability vs Ownership: The Difference Changes Everything
Many people use accountability and ownership interchangeably. At first glance, they seem like the same thing. Both involve taking responsibility for our lives. Both require honesty. Both ask us to examine our choices and actions. But there is an important distinction between them. Accountability is the willingness to acknowledge your role in a situation.…